Whether organisations, leaders and individuals are aware or agree with it or not, the collective belief to this question is an overwhelming ‘yes’. Of the 114 people who responded to a survey before attending the Quietly Powerful Women’s (QPW) events, a whopping 92% feel that they have to be extroverted to progress in their careers. Many of these women feel exhausted from having to put on the extroverted persona to get ahead. Even ambivert (mix of introvert and extrovert) and extrovert women have told me that they feel exhausted!Read more...

I hear many of us, including myself, advising people to ‘be yourself’, ‘bring your whole self to work’, ‘be authentic’ etc. It seems like a sensible piece of advice. I mean, who else would you be if you’re not yourself? As leaders, authentic leadership is supposed to be effective in engaging and inspiring people. As an organisation, you get higher engagement and access the best talents when people feel like they can ‘be themselves’ as well.Read more...

At least it’s not the first thing you need.Read more...

Many people in organisations – men and women – get told to speak up more. It seems women get told to more often, and quieter women get told even more often. The Quietly Powerful Women’s survey indicated that out of 97 respondents, 85% said they get told to speak up.Read more...

How often do you notice your inner voice saying “I can’t” or “I can”? How much and how often do you hold yourself back?Read more...

Over 150 women have attended the Quietly Powerful Women’s breakfasts over the last month and a half. Many women have said, “I’m glad I’m not alone” as well as “It’s great to know that my introversion / quietness can be a strength.”Read more...

…Because that doesn’t help me to become confident. In fact, it’s telling me that I’m not confident enough to be good enough, which makes me feel even worse and less confident. I know you mean well, but there are other things you can do instead.Read more...

I have continued to receive messages from women who could relate to The double glazed glass ceiling and Are you ‘covering’ your quieter self?  All five of the Quietly Powerful Women’s Breakfasts are now booked out and more women are interested. So what’s going on?Read more...

I was pleasantly surprised by the responses to my last article The double glazed glass ceiling and invitation to the breakfast. The breakfast got booked out in 4 days, which was unexpected! There were many who told me that it resonated with them and they have had experiences of being overlooked, not heard or recognised. The other response was a little more surprising.Read more...

Do you know quieter professional women who contribute a lot or have the potential to but don’t get noticed, recognised or overlooked? They are naturally more introverted, not comfortable with promoting themselves or networking. Alternatively they are good at pretending to be an extrovert but feel exhausted or depleted in doing so. They are quiet achievers or ‘exhausted’ achievers.Read more...

Having been involved in a number of culture change efforts, a pattern keeps emerging as one of the biggest stumbling blocks. Not many people talk about it openly, either – another elephant (see What to do when people don’t want to talk about the elephant?).Read more...

My last article What to do when people don’t want to talk about the elephant? raised the problem of not being able to discuss problems in organisations.Read more...

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